Have you ever wondered why your “I am” affirmations aren’t getting you anywhere? Why you’ve been trying so hard to change how you speak about yourself, but your default mindset is still awful? Have
you ever wondered why your brain just loves telling you how awful you are, even when you desperately don’t want it to? Read on if you’d like to start seeing some changes from the effort you’re putting into your “I am” affirmations.
YOU’VE THOUGHT OF YOURSELF AS CRAP!
Let’s face it. We’ve all been there. There’s absolutely no denying it.
We’ve judged and criticised ourselves for many, many years and we have put ourselves down and belittled and ridiculed ourselves to such an extent that we even hate ourselves. We are actually our own worst enemies!
I really want you to think about this. Think about it deeply!
If your best friend spoke to you, the way you speak to yourself during your bad days, during your toughest moments, while traversing through insurmounatable mountains of challenges, would you keep them as your best friend?
Or would you gently let that toxicity walk out the front door of your life, and lock that door behind it?
From this point forward, I want you to start recognising how often you talk negatively about yourself? How often exactly do you put yourself down?
NEGATIVE SELF TALK IS JUST LIKE FLEAS!
You know how they say that if you actually sight a single flea on your dog or cat, there are hundreds more hiding in the coat hiding in plain sight? You know they’re there, but you just can’t see them!
And you know that for every flea you see, there are thousands of eggs hiding too. You are well aware that the eggs are so small that you can’t see them, but you just know that they’re setting the scene for what’s to come?
Getting rid of fleas can be extremely difficult. You can treat your dog or cat, but the eggs remain in the yard or in the carpet of your house, and as the conditions ripen into what the eggs need, they hatch, and the flea cycle is started all over again.
The flea cycle can be severed, with a combination of treating your pet, and fumigating the environment, which is fantastic if every little variable can be treated.
More challenging if (as in my home in Australia) we have kangaroos coming into my paddocks or front lawn to eat the grass, or possums living in the tree right next to the house who will then pass fleas back to my pets and the cycle begins again.
Or I will take my dog for a drive to the local park or cafe, and she may pick a flea up from there and bring it home.
SOMETIMES YOU WILL BE SUBJECTED TO TOXICITY
Just like fleas, we need to fumigate the toxicity! Work on our minds to remove the toxic thoughts that we produce on our own and just like our pets with fleas, we can be subjected to toxic thoughts andother people’s opinions and negativity on a regular basis, whether we want to be or not, so we need to start becoming aware of our environment.
When we start affirmations, it is easy to get caught up in the ideal that because we are saying these nice things to ourselves a hundred times a day, that all of a sudden we are healed.
We need to remember though that, like the one flea we can see, our affirmation is changing only one core belief we have of ourselves which is the equivalent of the sighted flea, and we need to continue saying the affirmation over and over and over and over…….
YOU GET THE IDEA…
Your affirmations need to be so repetitive that it has not only changed the core belief at the conscious level, but also positively affected the subconscious level, ie fumigated the environment as well as put up environmental protection, which is the equivalent of treating all the flea eggs that we can’t see.
These ‘unhatched’ thoughts, given the right environment, would have hatched as another round of negative and toxic self talk, which you would then have to attack each flea separately again.
Examples of triggers for the ‘eggs’ to hatch are an inappropriate comment by a friend or family member, a triggering remark on a tv show, something you witnessed at the supermarket, or an incident of road rage etc
We can’t always control our environment and the triggers we get so we need to safeguard ourselves to the best of our ability!
HOW TO SAFEGUARD WITH AFFIRMATIONS
“I Am” statements are incredibly powerful, but whilst they are used to improve how we view ourselves and must be a little out of our comfort zone to make headway, they must also be s
Telling yourself “I am a millionaire” when you have no food in t
he fridge, and $0.17 cents in your bank account is going to trigger bigger, heavier toxic emotions and self talk than you are overcoming.
Choosing your affirmation is crucially important! In this case, perhaps “I am choosing to cultivate an abundant mindset” or “I am choosing to love money” would be an appropriate option. Find something that resonates, that excites you to say it, whilst at the same time pushing your comfort zone.
And repeat, repeat, repeat, repeat… until you are sick to death of that affirmation.
Then repeat, repeat, repeat, repeat some more.
USE YOUR NEW AFFIRMATION LIKE CLOCKWORK
Affirm to yourself in the shower, when you wake up in the morning, while you’re watching tv, while you’re driving your car, or sitting on the train. Repeat as a mantra as you’re falling asleep, say it as you’re going for a walk, use it repetitively during a meditation. Use it like clockwork.
Teach yourself when you are triggered, to immediately find your positive “I am” statement and turn that toxic thought around as quickly as it happens.
Once you have mastered the art of using your “I Am”s in place of the negative when you are triggered, you are well on the way to changing your subconscious programming where you will start to see physical changes happening in your life.
ONE AFFIRMATION AND ONE DAY AT A TIME
When you realise how many times you have told yourself the toxic negative thoughts, you will understand why it takes so many repetitions to make a difference when we try to change our thinking, but when we work on one affirmation at a time, one day at a time, rather than many, we truly have the power to edit our programming to a more empowered script.
Let me know, by commenting below, what “I am” affirmation you are working on at the moment, and what changes you are trying to achieve in your life at the moment.