Self pleasure for women has long been treated as a taboo subject. It’s always been ok for men to masturbate, but women have long been held under the stereotypy that it is wrong, and hence we have grown into a society full of repressed, wounded and insecure women who often feel that they shouldn’t be proud of their own sexuality.
But what if we could change that? What if we could embrace our amazing sexuality, using yoni eggs as a tool to step into our authenticity and connect with our inner selves at an intimate level as a tool for self development.
Sex. It sells. We all know this. We should be sexy. Look sexy. Speak sexy. Dress sexy. Act sexy. All the time.
We are surrounded by gorgeous women on the cover of magazines everywhere we go. On billboards. Tv. Movies. Even ‘regular’ women in ads. They’re all gorgeous! Thin. Tanned. Toned. Photoshopped to a level of deliciousness that we strive to be like, wish we could be like, every moment of our day.
And yet, most of those stunning women would be unrecognisable if we saw them in person. With their legs and arms and belly the real size that they are, rather than halved to meet the standards of a magazine. With actual skin blemishes like all women have. With actual wrinkles like all women have.
But we know this. We know that none of it is real. There have been enough articles by now, showing us how photoshop works. Discussing the unrealistic nature of these high standards of sexiness in the reality of the normal woman. But the damage has been done. We are still judged by so many men on these appearances and what has come to be expected in a magazine.
We are being judged every day on whether we are similar to an unrecognisable version of a person that we wouldn’t even be able to recognise! It is ingrained in us now that we should be like that. So sexy. In looks, actions, being, speaking. In every way.
And because we can’t become the impossibility of these beautiful women that are photoshopped to these levels of perceived perfections, we have then become completely and utterly disconnected to our sexuality, wounding our divine feminine essence to even greater levels.
WE STORE OUR ISSUES IN OUR TISSUES
To add to this, every woman in the world has had some sort of trauma; emotional or otherwise (and there are many, many levels of trauma), that has created a negative impact on our sexual health by way of our emotions.
Emotions are the big catalysts that make or break our world. They are the major core of the human existence. They are impossible not to have. Negative, positive, neutral, positive that is perceived as negative, negative that is perceived as positive. But all emotions nonetheless.
And we store our issues in our tissues.
What I mean with this can be compared to when we get a bit stressed, and upset. We might feel so upset that our tummy starts doing somersaults, and our muscles tense up, especially in our shoulders and neck and that flows to our head and we get a headache.
HEALING OUR YONIS
The extension of this is that at the core of our being we are feminine, and sexual creatures. Our femininity and sexuality stems from our sexual organs. Our yonis. Yoni is the Sanskrit word for ‘sacred tunnel’. And, we store our issues in our tissues.
From the basic little bit of frustration from having a disagreement with a work colleague, to our friend being upset because we were late to lunch, or a disconnection in the bedroom with our partner, to more sinister issues like sexual trauma from being sexually abused.
The end result is that we store our issues in our yoni tissues.
All of that lack of self worth. All that says we don’t deserve a wonderful relationship in our life. All that holds us in disrespect of ourselves. All that disconnection with others. And worst of all, all the disconnection we created within ourselves, and to ourselves.
DENYING HEALTHY SEXUALITY
Our yoni tissues respond the same as our head during a phase of stress. By tensing and tightening over time of prolonged tension and stress, we create pain by way of a headache. And we do the same in our yonis with prolonged tension and stress, creating pain.
This is why eventually, sexual interactions for women can become very unpleasurable! With a lack of sensitivity in the yoni, and/or pain, especially during intercourse, many women struggle with self pleasure, as well as allowing themselves to feel pleasure when with their partners.
This is why women then shut off from self pleasure, their own sexuality, and of course their partners because they feel little to no libido.
This is why women stop instigating a sexual connection and sexually intimate moments with their partners. It all gets too challenging and uncomfortable.
EMOTIONS AND CONNECTION
And sadly, most women have never been taught how to process their emotions, and even fewer women have been taught how to release the tension and pain in their yonis to reconnect with that part of their body, their emotions, their core self.
Most women are just floating around doing what they need to do with no sense of connection to themselves. And then they wonder why their relationships are falling apart.
If you can’t connect with yourself, how can you expect to connect with a partner?
YONI EGGS AND SELF DEVELOPMENT
This is what yoni eggs are for. Yoni eggs are about creating a learning process to reconnect with self and find our self love.
They are about taking a conscious moment with self, as regularly as possible, to say “hey me, I’m here, and I still love, honour and respect myself”.
It is about learning how to love yourself at a core level, releasing all of those traumas from our yoni tissues, releasing the emotions, the tension and pain to be able to reconnect.
Just because it has been challenging and painful recently, doesn’t mean it will always be like that. There are tools to help you!
ENTER YONI EGGS
Using crystal yoni eggs consciously we can find our sensual, sexual self. Our self that knows it’s inherently valuable. Inherently respectable. Inherently worthy. Inherently loveable.
There are many practices that women can do with their yoni eggs to help overcome any emotional and physical trauma that they are holding onto in their minds and bodies.
Yoni eggs are a really ancient and sacred tool to create a more loving, intimate and empowered relationship with the self, and with your partner and when used with the right intention you will feel the benefits almost immediately.
I will do another post in the near future to delve into yoni eggs a bit more; their history, how to look after them, and a few beginner exercises to using them for women to improve their self pleasure and loving connection with their inner self.
My favourite supplier of empowered pleasure tools for women, including yoni eggs, is the beautiful Rosie Rees who has a worldwide following and incredible support for her customers on Facebook where you can ask as many questions as you have in a super safe and non judgemental environment.
Love and Blessings,